Tonight’s song is a warning. A man in prison looks back at every step that brought him there.
Learn from Songs · Unit 9c: Third and mixed conditionals · B2
If It Hadn’t Been for Love
A dark bluegrass song told from a prison cell, where a man looks back on how jealousy wrecked his life: the third conditional (if I hadn’t…, I would never have…), would’ve and wouldn’t have, if it hadn’t been for…, mixed conditionals (I wouldn’t be here now if…) and regrets with I wish I hadn’t, with Philo, Sophia, Marcos and Demetria.
SOPHIA
DEMETRIA
What did he do?
SOPHIA
Something terrible, out of jealousy. The song doesn’t celebrate it: he blames everything on “love”, and we have to decide whether that is true.
PHILO
So it’s a song about regret. All about what might have been.
Before you listen: the song
Nashville, Tennessee, 2008
The SteelDrivers are a bluegrass band from Nashville. Their first singer was Chris Stapleton, who later became one of the biggest stars in country music. He wrote this song with the band’s mandolin player, Mike Henderson, and it appeared on their first album in 2008.
In 2010, the young British singer Adele heard the song, loved it, and recorded her own version, which appeared on the deluxe edition of her famous album 21. Stapleton later joked that when he heard about it, he had no idea who Adele was.
In the song, the singer is in prison for life. He remembers how he followed the woman he loved across the country, how jealousy took hold of him, and how he did something he can never undo. Line after line, he says what he would never have done if it hadn’t been for love.
A note for teachers and parents: this is a dark song about a crime of jealousy. The lesson treats it as a warning and a study of regret, in the tradition of the old murder ballads. Listen to it first and decide if it suits your class.
Was it really love? Or was it jealousy wearing love’s name?
Listen: the journey to prison
PHILO
Listen once. Where did he travel? How did he travel? Where is he now?
SOPHIA
Then listen for the pattern he repeats again and again, and answer Section A.
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The third conditional
MARCOS
If he hadn’t gone to that town, he wouldn’t have got into trouble.
SOPHIA
If + past perfect, would have + past participle, for an imaginary past: it didn’t happen. If I had known, I would have helped. (I didn’t know, so I didn’t help.) You can put either half first.
Would’ve, wouldn’t have, if it hadn’t been for
DEMETRIA
He would’ve been free. He never would’ve gone there if it hadn’t been for her.
SOPHIA
In speech and songs, would have → would’ve (never “would of”!). If it hadn’t been for + noun = without this person or thing: If it hadn’t been for the rain, we would have won. Short form: but for the rain.
Mixed conditionals and regrets
PHILO
If he hadn’t done it, he wouldn’t be in prison now. He wishes he hadn’t gone.
SOPHIA
Mixed conditional: a past cause, a present result: If I had studied medicine, I would be a doctor now. And for regrets about the past: I wish / If only + past perfect: I wish I had listened.
Sophia’s comparison: anger and jealousy
PHILO
God warned Cain that sin was crouching at the door, and that he must master it. If Cain had listened, he would never have killed his brother.
SOPHIA
And Roman poets in our own day say that anger is a short madness. Jealousy is the same: it tells you it is love, but it isn’t.
DEMETRIA
So the song is wrong. It wasn’t love that sent him to prison. It was him.
Sophia’s summary
| Words and forms | Use | Example |
|---|---|---|
| If + past perfect, would have + p.p. | third conditional: an imaginary past | If he hadn’t gone, he wouldn’t have got into trouble. |
| would’ve / wouldn’t have | spoken forms (never “would of”) | I would’ve stayed. |
| if it hadn’t been for / but for + noun | without this person or thing | If it hadn’t been for her, I’d have left. |
| If + past perfect, would + verb (now) | mixed conditional: past cause, present result | If he hadn’t done it, he wouldn’t be in prison now. |
| I wish / If only + past perfect | regrets about the past | I wish I hadn’t gone. |
Practice
Listen to the song for Section A, then do the rest. Press “Check my answers” at the end. You can try again as many times as you like.
A · Listen: the song
Listen to the song and choose the best answer.
1. Where is the singer now?
2. What does he blame for everything?
3. How did he travel across the country?
4. What is the real cause of his crime?
5. Who sang the song first?
6. Which famous singer later recorded it?
B · Grammar and vocabulary
Write the missing word or words.
7. If he hadn’t gone to that town, he wouldn’t got into trouble.
8. If I known, I would have helped. (know)
9. If it been for the rain, we would have won.
10. If he hadn’t done it, he wouldn’t in prison now.
11. I wish I listened to my friends. (regret)
12. She would’ve come if you asked her. (ask)
C · Right or wrong?
Is the sentence correct English?
13. “If I would have known, I would have come.”
14. “If she hadn’t missed the train, she would be here now.”
15. “I would of told you.”
16. “I wish I hadn’t said that.”
Talk and write
Discussion and writing
Chain of events. In groups, make a chain story: If I hadn’t woken up late, I wouldn’t have missed the bus. If I hadn’t missed the bus… Who can make the longest chain?
Discuss. 1. The singer blames love. Is he right? Who is responsible? 2. Why do you think people enjoy sad and dark songs? 3. Why are there so many songs and stories about regret?
Write (120–150 words). What might have been. Think of a small decision in history or in a story you know. Write about how things would have been different, using the third conditional, one mixed conditional and one sentence with I wish… had…